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Best romantic match for an INFP MBTI

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Best romantic match for an INFP MBTI type



INFP - 19
INTJ - 18
ENFP - 17
ENFJ - 12
INFJ - 4
ENTJ - 4
ESTJ - 4
ENTP - 2
ISTP - 1
ESFJ - 1

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9W1 - 6
7W6 - 5
2W1 - 4
5W6 - 3
2W3 - 2
9W8 - 2
4W5 - 1
5W4 - 1
6W5 - 1

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Another INFP. Like Romeo & Julietwhoever voted ENTJ can die. i hate ENTJ's with a burning passioni seem to be most often drawn to entjs, estps, and istps specifically for whatever reason, even though i know a romantic relationship with those types would be a trainwreckI don't think I could be married to any E type, my preference for Introversion is just too strong.We must adapt to the ESTJ world to be able to live, my dear friend.

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. We need to combine our enemies because they help us to evolve into chaos and become a great man. WE MUST LOVE'S ESTJsBut I thought the ESTJ biased world is our enemy.

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.ESTJs teach INFPs to fight against the world. ESTJs is our complementary ego, we should embrace them and walk over our enemiesESTJ only stomp INFPs in the ground, no thanks.Information about Myers Briggs Type Indicator of Best romantic match for an INFP.Obviously ESTJ because ESTJs make the INFPs be more ambitious, realistic, ruthless and independent like me. HAIL ESTJ'S!The best romantic match for an INFP is a knife to commit suicide in the bathroom listening to emo musicAs an INFP, I don't find ESTPs non-comformists, they're like ESFJs in wolfs clothing.Which of the 16 personality types is Best romantic match for an INFP?.Btw I asked myself why INFPs, ENFPs and ESTPs (which are the most suprising vote) seem so attractive to me. I found 2 qualities that attract me to them: intensity and nonconformity.thedude: Don´t underestimate power of observation, inspiration and imitation!The problem with this analysis is the fact that it imply that there will only be one person in a couple of 2 people of differents types that will help the other one. And it's true, in this case, the couple will be a absolute disaster in the long run because they will both be completly frustrated. But if two people of different types help each other, I think it's best than 2 people with the same type and the same values, because in a couple of differents types, they can together come up with something different that the other person may never have thought.This is actually in contradiction with Jung's thoughts. From Von Franz, about relationship between patients and analysts which is subsequent to her statement on personal relationships "Frequently people choose the opposite type as analyst because, for instance, the feeling type cannot think and so admires tremendously a person who can. This course is not to be recommended, because if one is always with someone who knows it all he gets discouraged and gives up completely. He might feel very happy because now thinking is taken care of, but that is not an adequate solution. Jung, for instance, always liked to send people with the same blind spots to each other because, he said, if two idiots sit together and neither can think they will get into such trouble that at least one of them will begin to think!". Same goes for everything. When someone has trouble being decisive, he must be confronted to people even less capable of making decision to make progress. That's the only way you can gain consciousness about your shadow and inferior function. Therefore two INFPs in order to function would have to overcome their limitations.hannibalmick: "When you have 2 people with the same needs and approches to problems, is the fact that they'll be the risk that no one in the couple will know how to solve a problem." - I can't but agree with this statement. Despite of that I am attracted to another INFPs very much. I feel I can understand INFPs, ENFPs and ESTPs intuitively and I can call them (at least some of them) my soulmates. It makes them even more attractive.But the problems when you have 2 people with the same needs and approches to problems, is the fact that they'll be the risk that no one in the couple will know how to solve a problem. For example, try to imagine 2 INTJ with very weak Fi and Se trying to solve that, it's going to be really difficult to them since it's not natural for them. And it can depends in my opinion, my parents for example are ISFJ (mother) and INFP (father) and sometimes the differences can clash very hard, but it's always these differences that helps them to develop themselves. And when I said I did not know any INTJ females, it's in real life that i don't know any, I knew some from different sites, and I see some from different videos, or some actress or singers. And I know St.Vincent (I thought she was INFJ when I did not know much about her) and even though I like a little her music, I don't find her attractive at all even if objectively she's good looking, I found her a little cold (like Jodie Foster too even though I really like her as an actress), but funnyly, I can recognize myself in her tentative to look very warmth (even though people view me as not showing much emotions) in order to not be seen as cold. And I agree, INTJ females can have a hard time (NT females in general I think) because it's expected for a woman to be obedient, soft, feminine, and woman with very theoretical intelligence can be seen like bitches or whatever. It's like being INFP, it's probably not easy everyday since male have to be very tough, loud, hyperactive, etc... :DI agree that it's hard to say what is going to please someone individually the most, but broadly speaking very similar couples are consistently happier, are together longer, etc., etc. Everything most people would want out of a long-term relationship. And I think a lot of people who might be skeptical would find themselves convinced by experience. I think it makes a lot of sense personally. Differences might be sexy at first, but that gets old fast and the meat of the relationship is going to be about balancing needs and solving problems together. If you have the same needs and approaches to things, I think that is going to be a lot more pleasant experience. For example an ESTP might be okay with having a loud argument once in every while, without taking it too seriously, while it might scar an ISFP every single time. Or an ISFJ with an INFP might start to feel very helpless because they can never seem to solve the INFP's existential crisis by baking them cakes. :P (ISFJs have a similar dynamic to INFPs as INFPs do to INTJs according to Socionics.) I still think there might be some bad things to being very similar though. I can imagine, like it is in my case, that you might very easily become very combative with someone of your own type because you're sort of playing by the same rules and taking disagreements and differences very personally. I also imagine it might easily turn into a teacher/student kind of relationship if there is a certain difference in maturity - which is why Socionics is kind of lukewarm about the combination. Socionics also says that you should favor your opposite type though! Lol. Probably not a good idea. Anyway, ENxPs stress me out so much lol! I personally have gravitated and continue to gravitate the most towards INFJs, as an INFP, but I recognize the weakness of that combination. It's a very volatile and spotty kind of relationship. One moment you're soulmates, the other it's like you've suddenly found out your loved one is an alien robot clone. :P As for INTJ females, yeah - they are like the rarest type of all, and the ones I've known were all very troubled people. I don't think it's easy to be an INTJ woman because of the world unfortunately being the way it was. One of them was like super-overcompensating warmth in an overly fake way in social settings and the other had like major social anxiety issues ... If you're feeling brave I recommend physics and philosophy departments, as well as the Internet of course (dating web sites, forums). Does she do anything for you? :DBeing an INTJ, I absolutly does not see myself with an other INTJ (I have never known a female INTJ anyway)@hannibalmick I agree, I don't think I could stand a romantic relationship with another INFP. Personally I usually drift towards ENxP types.@butterfly I don't think it's untrue that people are best with similar personnalities and beliefs, but that does not mean they want to be with someone of the same type. And yes it's true that F are best with F, and T wants more F than others T, it's probably because T wants softness from their partner, when F are already very sensitive from the get-go and can be frustrated with thinkers who can be overly rationalrandomguy: Definitely .) you guys love ENFJs so much. :) And what about ENFPs? I love them! Pippi Longstocking! All the warm-hearted revolutionists, idealists and rebels! ENFPs are the stars...@Bonda: Wow! You sound very Perceiver compared to me. Then again, my Perceiver/Judger score tends to be very even on tests, so I'm probably not the most spontaneous of INFPs. :P @bobnickmad: Lol, I kind of agree - who would not love an ENFJ? But actually, a lot of types, I think. We probably feel this way because we're INFPs, lol. For example my INFJ friend would get very stressed in the company of all ENFJs, and I hear INTJs and ENFJs tend to find each other's existence an insult and are incredibly prone to arguments. :P But yeah, I agree it can be hard to find your ENFJ. I thought about bringing that up as a weak spot ... I think it goes for the Extrovert in all of those classic "best matches", such as ENFP and INTJ. The two are likely to be moving in very different circles and have very different lives. If the Extrovert gives the Introvert a chance though, they are likely to become very, very fascinated by them though. As for ENTJ-INFP, I think that's actually a far better combination than INTJ-INFP! The ENTJ's extroversion makes them a lot more generous to people, and a lot less rigid, putting far less pressure on the INFP. Inferior Fi is also a lot more volatile than Tertiary Fi. On one hand the ENTJ is likely to be less honorable than any given INTJ, but they also have a greater capacity, I think, to be truly emotionally gushing as well. I've had some very positive experiences with ENTJs as friends. On the other hand I also had one as a supervisor in a part-time job, and I'm still emotionally scarred by that. :Pbobnickmad It sounds great, congratulations! :) It probably depends on individual features and gender as well. I have much better experience with INTJ-INFP relationship than with ENFJ-INFP. ENFJ appeared bossy and conservative at the end, not so open-minded and independant as I have expected. They are no rebels. :) INTJ-INFP duscussions are very inspirational btw.I think both ENFJ and INFP have a maternal side toward their loved ones, while at the same type being more laid-back than the SFJ.*she's the only person. Also, butterfly, I get where you're coming from.That's for example what I thought about the ENTJ-INFP combination.A disaster.The ENTJ would have nice, soft emotional pillow to relax around when he comes from the hard work.But what would the INFP get from the relationship?Outside of a secure home, lol.Honestly I think ENFJ-INFP would be the best. On the other hand, I think ENFJ are pretty much the best match for every personality type lol. They have the nurturing aspect aspect of the ESFJ but they have a more laid-back and understanding style. I know an ENFJ, and it's the only person I know that I can talk at the same level -like I can talk with people on the internet who share my interests. I mean I come with some interesting idea that nobody else around know what to do (they will just look funny at me and dismiss it), but she understands where I'm coming from and actually continues the conversation from there on.So, yeah, it sounds perfect. The thing is, I don't see me having a chance over other types either.She's basically the popular, highly attractive, charismatic, funny, talkative, best dressed, socialite type.So, really there's pretty much everyone else in line. + :)It is maybe because I like my P and I do not feel like it must be counterbalanced by other person's J. J partners constantly ask me about my plans, (when to move, when to finish education, when to have babies etc etc). I do not have any plans. I am just like "I do not know now. When the time comes, we will feel it. Let's concentrate on the present time." I am too disorganized and it makes them frustrated. I never know how my next day will look like. Possibilities are unlimited. Maybe we will love each other, maybe not. J types can not live like that.Oh, and here's the source, I don't know what to do with myself most of the time! Some guidance helps. Anyway, the stuff about parenting is true. It comes from Socionics though, which is the super dubious Soviet Union branch of MBTI. Note that the Introverted types are basically inverted in Socionics, so INFj = INFP, but ENFj = ENFJ. "Pseudo-Caregivers/Students: IEE (ENFp) EII (INFj): These are types who exhibit paternal/maternal tendencies towards others in their everyday lives and may thus carry over these notions and temperaments into their romantic life. These types habitually attempt to give their partner what he/she "needs" (or what they believe they need). As a result, they may become drained by lack of attendance to their own needs and desires. In a partner, they are searching for a combination of strength and gentleness.""INFPs relationship style is that they express and receive love by being parented and parenting" - really?? ... It may be ISFJ or ESFJ, not INFP imho.butterfly: It is strange. I am extremely P and I hate being organized. I need to follow my own dis/order, anything else is unacceptable. P types understand it and respect it, J types dislike it and fight against it. :) They need to know where to go in advance. I make my decisions during journey. It if difficult to travel/ live together than.@hannibalmick: Interestingly romantic satisfaction is extremely strongly correlated to likeness in personality and beliefs. So much so that many psychologists will simply compare the likeness of a couple's Big 5 results to determine fundamental compatibility and find out what needs to be worked on. It's not black and white though ... Statistics show that Ts are on average happier in relationships with Fs who are on average happier with themselves, lol. This makes sense though, since Fs are generally better at relationships than Ts. @Bonda: Speaking as an INFP, honestly I like to be "parented" myself, lol. I've heard that the INFPs relationship style is that they express and receive love by being parented and parenting. Are you sure you're an INFP? I'm kind of getting a Fe vibe (ENFJ/INFJ) from you. Not saying that the stuff about INFPs liking to be parented is necessarily true though, but anyway I don't mind myself. The ENFJ's "parenting" style is also a lot more looser and understanding of the INFP than the styles of ESFJs, ISFJs, etc.butterfly - Nice comment! I I have a question: How did you prevent ENFJ from parental behaviour?Personally I dislike protective and parental attitude. All J partners started to teach me how to organize my life... How to avoid this problem?Having a partner with the same type and the same values seems like a bad match to me (and a little narcissistic) because they'll agree on everything and because of that, it can become very boring since couples needs some tension (positive tension of course) to work properly.I think INTJ is generally not a good idea. The INTJ has little appreciation for what the INFP does best, which leads the INFP to constantly strain their Inferior Te to try to gain their acknowledgment. INTJs are also parasitic on the INFP's Fi. They will benefit greatly from the INFP's emotional support, but will have little to give back - which is ironic, since INFP need this kind of stuff more. In order to get the attention they need, it will just reinforce the INFP's overuse of Te to impress them. It's really, really easy to fall into some sort of Te-grip this way. It's healthy to develop all of one's function, but this can easily lead to one throwing all one's weight on one's weakest leg - which is a very bad idea. The INTJ will probably be very satisfied with this relationship though, lol. Yes, I'm fucking bitter about past experiences!!! According to empirical psychology, the best partners are the same. Personally I'm just fighting with INFPs when I meet them though. :P I think it's because we usually have very different values, but maybe the best match is an INFP with the same values? I also think ENFJ is really great. The ENFJ tends to have their mind blown by everything the INFP says (original ideas coming from deeper emotions than they themselves have), while being incredibly nurturing and attentive to the INFP's emotional needs - which an ENFJ greatly enjoys being. It should be a very intensely happy relationship. Unhealthy INFP and ENFJ are like cryptonite for each other though, since the INFP tends to turn into a fanatic brute - which the ENFJ's Fe hates - while the ENFJ becomes a cynical schemer - which INFP Fi hates.bobnickmad: F+F may be too emotional, too dramatic and painful cohabitation. I prefer F + T balance. And INFPs need positive, anti-anxious, unworried, carefree, active, passionate, lively mates imho.Yes, they are often like that. :) I know. Their imperfections are very different from mine. I still like them. (Maybe it is the reason? I do nit know.)I realized I came out harsher than I should. But I never really had the best relationships with ESTPs. They seem to inconsistent in their believes, like one thing they tell how no one should judge them and then judge some person based on some shallow reasoning.bobnickmad No way. I am INFP and I love and admire ESTPs and they respect me and like me. They are awesome, inspiring and complementary. J types are of course less compatible. My strong P drives them crazy.ESTP and ESTJ would make INFP shot himself in the head.ENFP and ESTP can make INFP life dynamic and help them to be active and act according to their ideals. ENFP will cry together with INFP while watching Earthlings on Friday evening. Next day they will go to a slaughterhouse to protest or bond themselfs to some cages etc. However ESTP will not cry or even watch the movie, he or she will participate in protest as well. ESTP will prepare chains and binding and make the action feasible and adventurous. This is what INFPs need.This entirely depends on what each one wants in a partner. INFP with Te users will have to adjust a lot but there'll be huge development. INFP with NF is easy but also full of drama. All in all, it's like something Bob Marley said “The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”I think INFP-ENFJ couples work only if both have their Ne-Ni well developed. Fi-Fe clashes easily but it also depends on the individual.bobnickmad: :) if that INFP wants to do something with their life.I am afraid all J types start to dislike INFP "let it be - hippie" attitude after short time.That's why I think an INTJ would be a better match, they're intuitive and their Te isn't dominant. An INTJ would give the INFP some kind of direction, while also appreciating his imagination and need for individuality.I really don't know where people get the idea of duality as ideal pair. That's what types are avoiding, the one who is completely the opposite to it, even if the idea sounds right and helpful to personal growth, the reality is painful, a young ESTJ just would obstruct a young INFP's personal growth and mature proccess and, instead of let the weaker functions compliment the stronger ones they would just develop the weaker ones on a crud and raw form. Also, as supposed, it is a pain to live with someone who is the complete opposite to you.There's something really wrong with the idea of matching opposites. That's precisely what Jung was against, associating patients and psychotherapists of the SAME type to force them to counter-balance their weakness. Living a relationship with one's opposite is just like walking with a crutch, the best way to prevent any personal growth. I'd even say BEWARE of such pairing. Best match for any xNFx type would be another xNFx in my view. For INFP, I would say INFP, ENFP or INFJ would be a better match, although INTJ is also an interesting idea.I think INTJ who values his Fi, because the INFP helps the willing INTJ develop his Fi, and the INTJ helps the INFP develop his Te. But of course only if there's love. ENFJ would be theoretical because the way Fe-Fi, Ni-Ne, Si-Se balance each other almost perfectly, and I think it can work wonders in the right circumstances because they feed themselves emotionally positive, but they can also feed themselves emotionally negatively and in that case they might both end up as emotional wreckage.I definitely think INTJ-INFP, or ENFJ-INFP or far better matches than ENTJ-INFP or ENFJ-INTP, there has to be a balance, and a Te-dom will run over a Te inferior far too easily, the same way a Fe-dom would tire emotionally a Fe inferior too easily. ENTP or ESTP I can't see, the Ti aux-Fe tertiary combination can get on my nerves really easily, and I see an INFP and an INFJ getting on philsophical conflicts too easily, while an ENFJ would be more understanding.I don't really get why people are trying to be Kiersey and match INFPs with extroverts. As boring as it sounds, a fellow INFP recognizes the needs of INFPs like none other.