I'm not sure what my personality type is, so I thought I would ask what you guys think. I'll jot down some things about me, but this might not cover every dimension needed to make an MBTI assessment, so feel free to ask me any specific questions yourself if you feel the need!
- I tend to keep my feelings to myself and rarely vent to others. One of the main reasons for this is that I'm afraid of having my feelings dismissed or invalidated with comments like "It could be worse" or "It's not that big a deal" (having my feelings minimized is one of the things that upsets me the most), though even with that aside, I've just never really felt the need to confide my feelings in others unless I'm really being destroyed by stress. The role that others play in helping me feel better is simply to keep me company and improve my mood by being a conversation partner, rather than talking through my issues directly. I've been called mysterious and maybe a little inaccessible by friends because it's so rare for me to share my worries, insecurities, or the problems in my life.
- Alone time is always a comfort and something that's necessary for me. I can't relate to those who always have to be connected with others and never have breathing room to spend time by themselves. I do love having a nice conversation with a family member or friend, or spending time with a small group or two or three others (groups of five people, that number including myself, is where I get uncomfortable and overstimulated), but I need a great deal of time to myself to unwind, to think, to indulge in my own hobbies. A life without a lot of private alone time would be a miserable one for me.
- Group harmony is incredibly important to me. Sarcastic remarks tend to bother me (even if the person they're actually aimed at doesn't seem to care), and bickering or squabbling makes me shut down and zone out until it's over. I don't want anyone to feel neglected or for anything they say to be met with a cold reception; if someone makes a joke that nobody in the group laughs at, or someone expresses an idea that doesn't really receive any feedback or leaves other at a loss (ie they think what the person says is dumb, weird, awkward, whatever), I feel sad. I always try to give the appropriate response to make sure that nobody's feelings get hurt. Nothing makes me feel as energized as a one-on-one conversation or a small gathering where everyone's on the same page and being nice to each other.
- I love learning about other people on a deep level. There's almost nothing I love more than reading a message where someone bares their soul, exploring their deepest feelings and reaching into the core of who they are as a person. In fiction, I love scenes where characters argue and where emotions run high because I soak up those kinds of feelings and am energized by them.
- I'm not terribly ambitious. My goals in life are to get married to someone I love, retire at a young age, and then live as simple and hermit-like an existence as I can. I don't want to do great things or make waves, I just want to be comfy and content.
- I'm not really a perfectionist. I write stories sometimes, but if they take too long and I end up just wanting to finish them already, I might take shortcuts or even cut out certain scenes altogether without having it bother me too much. I don't consider myself to be sloppy, but if any project (writing or otherwise) ends up as an 8/10 rather than the perfect 10/10 I'd envisioned, I usually think "Good enough" instead of beating myself up for not winning those last two points.
- I read about technological and medical news on a daily basis because I like to be reminded of the world slowly becoming a better place. I've always been bothered by all the bad that goes on in the world... when I was a kid, I used to be really upset at the idea of things like insects being caught in spiderwebs. The less inescapable suffering there is in the world, the better.
- I tend to collect my thoughts before replying to something says to or asks of me. Sometimes this takes so long that people misunderstand and rush to say "You don't have to answer if you don't want to" even though I'm just taking some time to give the most accurate answer.
- Whenever there's something I want to do or a goal I have in mind, my plans for carrying that out tend to be specific. A lot of the time I type things out in Wordpad documents for myself, complete with deadlines of specific months and/or years, the amount of progress I want to make on a daily or weekly or monthly basis, etc. I can get frustrated with those who leave things more open and undefined, or who take a "It will get done when it gets done" approach to things.
- Most of my personal values involve relationships or the ways in which people should be treated. Abandoning one's loved ones (family goes without saying, but this includes close friends as well) without a very good reason is something that can make me lose all respect for a person; if I become close with a person, I believe that I have a commitment to be a part of their lives in some capacity forever and to never disappear. I also consider the silent treatment to be one of the cruelest things you can do to a person and would never inflict it on anyone, not temporarily and certainly not permanently. I care far more about tending to someone's feelings than being honest with them. If someone asks me for constructive criticism on a drawing they made or a story they wrote, I'm rarely able to give that constructive criticism because hurting someone's feelings just stresses me out too much to be worth it.
- On the more intellectual side of things, intellectually dishonest and stubborn people get on my nerves. I don't like it when people choose one "side" on an issue and will never give a single inch no matter what. I think it's a great trait to be able to admit when the other side has a valid point on something, and to be willing to re-evaluate your stances on things.
I think that's enough for now. Please ask me whatever questions you need if there's some holes that need filling.